Obviously if you have huge life traumas, sometimes a professional therapist is best. But the self-help industry is full of snake-oil salespeople who sometimes charge hundreds or even thousands, to take advantage of the heartbreaks of people who perhaps have been through tough times, or are highly-sensitive empaths (in recent times, this has been made worse – most of us sensitive beings are traumatised beyond belief by events in Ukraine affecting all beings, yet ‘society’ just carries on with life. To find out ways to help world peace and charities that are helping animals, see how to help create world peace.
So whether you’ve got traumas to heal from past or present events, you self-sabotage with destructive behaviour or perhaps you simply can’t mend a broken heart, here are some authentic resources to help. Most are free, and any courses are all affordable, you’ll never find anything on this site encouraging people to spend their life savings to feather the nest of some get-rich-quick online guru.
Trusting the Dawn: How to Choose Freedom & Joy After Trauma is a book by a woman who survived a mudslide that dropped 200 million gallons of rain in 15 minutes, washing away her home. Trapped alone in her bathroom while pregnant (not sure if her husband and 4-year old son were still alive), she draws from her own experience and background in clinical psychology, to offer a radical handbook to heal from any kind of trauma.
Stories of survival and interviews with experts bring to life an extensive holistic toolkit filled with pathways to heal – from movement therapy like yoga to flower essences to talk therapy and aromatherapy (avoid essential oils for pregnancy/nursing or near pets/children). Central to the author’s teachings is the idea that your trauma (in whatever form) can become the gateway to a more illuminated life. This book is a call to action to see you are more connected and powerful, not in spite of what you’ve been through – but because of what you’ve endured.
- Swami Purnachaitanya was born to Dutch/Indian parents, and is an expert on yoga, meditation, mantra and Vedic wisdom. His new book Looking Inward is worth a read, on how to find calm in a chaotic world of global warming, a pandemic and war. This book takes you on a step-by-step journey to inner peace and happiness.
- Always Well Within is a lovely blog by Sandra, a Buddhist mindfulness teacher who lives on the beautiful island of Hawaii. All of her posts are great, and she also has a free nice newsletter and some very affordable online courses, if you need some professional help. Read her post how to take care of your heart in brutal times.
- The Enthusiastic Buddhist is a lovely site, mostly with free videos from a former Buddhist nun who now is married, but continues to practice the faith. There is something about this lovely young woman (maybe it’s the soft Aussie twang!) that makes you relax the moment you start watching, and her videos are also very informative and practical.
- Brad Yates is a nice relaxing teacher of EFT (emotional freedom technique, better known as ‘tapping’). By tapping certain meridian points while chanting certain words, you can often heal deep-seated trauma (it’s used successfully on soliders who have sometimes had 40 years of post-traumatic stress disorder). Unlike many American tapping teachers, he’s not loudy and shouty and annoying, he is more quiet and relaxing! You can take a free course at his site, or watch this video and tap along!
- Brianna West is a beautiful writer, and her post ‘When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal is simply one of the best. ‘Slowly over time, you will awaken to what is really wrong, the piece of you that had to break off to build a wall, because behind it was a wound you did not yet know how to heal. Slowly and gradually, you will start to return to yourself. You will enter that emotional fire and burn off everything blocking the core of you, from truly being in the world. You were never lost, only hidden. It was the core of you saying ‘keep going, there is more to life than this’.
- Overwhelm: The Survival Guide is a cheatsheet by Leo Babauta, one of the world’s most popular bloggers. He went from a stressed-out, chain-smoking and overweight newspaper writer to someone who now lives a healthy plant-based running life, while staying chilled raising their six children!
- Aftershock is an important book by Pattrice Jones. It is specifically written to help anyone who works within a stressful traumatic situation, to help them keep things together – whether they are in the fields of emergency rescue, animal/human abuse or anything else that would give people nightmares, at the end of the shift. It would also be a good read for people in the medical profession left traumatised by COVID deaths.