Real Talk is a ‘therapist in a book’ with a real therapist who offers a collection of lessons that you would learn in therapy to cover trauma, love, trust, boundaries, family and self-esteem.
One of the main things that we learn in therapy is that whatever we don’t address ends up a mess. Our past shows up in mysterious ways – unhealthy patterns and unmet emotional needs, or the people we continue to attract into our lives. And this relates to how we relate to others in the world. Until we can unpack our roots and history, we will be haunted by it.
As a trained psychologist, I meet a lot of people who were once children with big feelings. But now they are grownups with big feelings and adult-size emotional wounds. These wounds show up as perfectionism, self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and problems with love and relationships. Each of these wounds comes from something in the past, that never had the chance to heal.
The author goes on to say that she wrote the book as a way to help others who don’t have the chance to benefit from regular professional therapy, like her clients. This is the next best thing.
She writes that her book won’t always make you feel better, as you are going to have to ‘go there’ to examine the feelings and past, in order to heal, just like with a real therapist. And that’s because ‘there is no healing without feeling’.
‘Fine’ is not a feeling.
