Deep Resilience (a four-step journey to inner strength)

Kate Brazier

Deep Resilience is a beautifully written book with a unique four-step process to find inner strength, even in the midst of tough life problems.

If you feel overwhelmed by life’s challenge and yearn to feel calmer, stronger and more confident in an uncertain world, this book is for you. It won’t solve your problems, but will help you learn to cope better with them.

Combining evidence-based skills with deep spiritual wisdom, you’ll learn how to transform your emotional wounds into wisdom and courage, and find calm and clarity in the face of chaos.

And revolutionise your state of mind, so you are guided by purpose, instead of governed by fear. Get unstuck, find purpose and make rapid positive changes to life. So you can become deeply resilience, and emerge stronger than you’ve ever been before.

This book will transform your life, and help you face whatever arises with courage and care, along with mental and emotional strength. It is borne of Melli’s many years of research and practice, and her exquisite sensitivity to how we can thrive as individuals. It is also a profoundly generous book. She has written this book as an act of love for the world.’ Vidyamala Burch

Melli O’Brien is one of the world’s most respected mindfulness teachers, who has used the teachings in the book above, to heal and cope from serious life challenges.

You can listen to free podcasts on her website on mental resilience (she has a lovely relaxing Aussie voice too, not some shiny happy clappy mindfulness teacher!)

Dr.Vegan Stay Calm (a supplement to help anxiety)

Dr.Vegan Stay Calm is a quality supplement, the first order is sold in a refillable metal tin, then you just order refills in eco-pouches thereafter. You can buy once, or get a free pill tin, then subscribe for bigger savings.

Designed to regulate hormones, it contains ashwagandha KSM-66^®, Rhodiola & Cordyceps, all designed to help you deal with extreme stress. 81% of people find it effective, if taken for at least 60 days.

Always check with your GP before taking supplements if on medication (also for women if pregnant or nursing). Keep them away from children and pets, and recycle unused supplements and medicines at pharmacies (never flush them down the loo).

Before taking supplements, check with GP if pregnant/nursing or on medication. Keep them away from young children and pets, and recycle unused supplements at pharmacies.

When to expect improvements

2 weeks (more calm, better focus & mood)
1 month (better able to cope with stressful situations)
2 months (better hormonal balance, better sleep)

Join the transparent label campaign

The transparent label campaign is a worldwide petition to ask governments to mandate clear labels on supplements, to show if they contain animal ingredients. Many contain ‘hidden’ ingredients like gelatine (animal bones), fish, collagen, creatine and magnesium stearate, which collectively kills billions of creatures).

Tips to help prevent anxiety

Heather Stillufsen

If you’re worried about the cost of getting help, there are free therapy options across England that you can trust. Many of these are well-known organizations that have been helping people for years.

You can find support through face-to-face sessions, by phone, online chat, or even by text. Here are some of the top choices to get started, no matter where you live or how you want to talk.

Also read our posts on support for depression

NHS talking therapies are free on the NHS with referral from a GP. You can also refer yourself if you prefer or have an unhelpful GP who prefers to always dole out drugs.

You do need to be registered with a GP to access cognitive behavioural therapy, counselling and guided self-help to treat common issues like: anxiety, depression, social anxiety, phobias, post-traumatic stress, irritable bowel syndrome and body dysmorphia.

You can get help:

In person at local clinics
Over the phone
Through online video calls and courses

Mind is one of the largest mental health charities in the UK. They don’t offer formal therapy everywhere, but many local Mind branches have free or low-cost support programs. These services may include:

Short-term counselling
Peer support groups
Crisis lines
Advice and information

Mind also has an online community called Side by Side, which connects people who are dealing with similar issues. You can join from anywhere and talk freely with others, day or night.

Local Minds are independent organisations that provide mental health services in communities across England and Wales. They exist as independent charities, and their own services like peer support groups, working directly with communities where they are based.

Kooth is a free online counselling and mental health support service aimed mainly at young people aged 10–25. It’s available across much of the UK, especially through schools and colleges. Kooth offers:

Live chat with professional counsellors
Discussion boards
Self-help resources

Everything on Kooth is anonymous and you can join up with just a username—no real names needed. This can be a good choice if you don’t want to talk face-to-face or need support after school hours.

There’s no single “right” option, and many people find a mix of informal support, online help, and more formal therapy works best. Don’t be afraid to try more than one service until you find what feels best for you.

Real Talk is a ‘therapist in a book’ with lessons that you would learn in therapy to cover trauma, love, trust, boundaries, family and self-esteem. Our past shows up in mysterious ways – unhealthy patterns and unmet emotional needs, or the people we continue to attract into our lives.

And this relates to how we relate to others in the world. Until we can unpack our roots and history, we will be haunted by it.

As a trained psychologist, I meet a lot of people who were once children with big feelings. But now they are grownups with big feelings and adult-size emotional wounds.

These wounds show up as perfectionism, self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and problems with love and relationships. Each of these wounds comes from something in the past, that never had the chance to heal.

She writes that her book won’t always make you feel better, as you are going to have to ‘go there’ to examine the feelings and past, in order to heal, just like with a real therapist. And that’s because ‘there is no healing without feeling’