Help for Domestic Abuse (people and pets)
Domestic impacts people and pets, and help is needed for people who need to escape (including with children and pets). Avoid ‘true crime’ stories on TV, this numbs our capacity to be shocked, and creates a society where nearly all serial killers have a history of abuse to animals or/and children.
Recognising Signs of Domestic Abuse
Not always easy to see, be concerned if someone always looks scared, worried or sad around someone they live with, or you see bruises or other injuries. Or someone who is controlling.
How to Escape from Domestic Abuse
If safe to use the Internet, fill in this customised personal safety plan, for custom advice. The site has online advice to quickly leave the site, if needed.
- Find a safe place, whether it’s the house of a friend or relative, a neighbour or a public place like a shop or doctor’s office. If you feel scared to talk, write a note and keep phone numbers in a safe place, kept hidden somewhere safe. Call the police if you are in immediate danger.
- Pack a small bag of essentials if you intend to leave, and keep it somewhere safe, or with someone you trust.
You can see help from one of the following organisations:
- National Domestic Abuse Helpline (available 24/7 for confidential support)
- NHS (lists where to find help, and cover your tracks online)
- Women’s Aid (what to do if abusers have discovered your online activity)
- Citizens Advice (where to find help for honour killings and stalking)
- Respect Phoneline (help for abusers to change their ways)
- SafeLives (a course for professionals to help abusers)
Helping Animal Victims of Domestic Abuse
Many people who abused also don’t leave, due to concerns over pets, that often suffer too. Try to list medical conditions, likes/dislikes and behavioural issues, along with favourite toys and blankets (try to use carriers for scared cats, to avoid them running off).
- Dogs Trust Freedom Project and Refuge 4 Pets offer fostering (usually in different areas) until victims get settles (has tips on legal guardianship).
- Lifeline offers free foster care from Cats Protection in many areas of England, Wales and Scotland.
- Endeavour helps people with pets escape abuse situations, with in-house pet fostering services for north west England. It recommends (ideally) vaccinations, not always possible in emergencies.
- RSPCA has a good page of info, and links to regional foster care.
- Find Veterinary Team Guidance, to recognise signs of non-accidental injury.
Luna Little Legs is an illustrated book to help children recover from trauma, if they have witnessed or experienced domestic abuse. The age-appropriate language helps children from abusive families or situations talk about their feelings to other family members or professionals. Professionals can buy a supporting guidebook.
