Reasons to Forgive Everyone for Everything
Letting go of old hurts isn’t just a saying. Forgiveness clears your mind, lifts old weights from your heart, and changes your days for the better. Many of us hold grudges without noticing how heavy they become. The truth is, there’s already too much hate and anger in the world.
If you’re tired of bitterness weighing you down, it might be time to let go. These reasons to forgive everyone for everything. No matter how big or small. It could change your life!
Forgiveness Sets You Free
Holding onto anger is like dragging a heavy bag everywhere. Letting go gives you freedom—freedom from the pain, the replayed arguments, and the stress. Forgiveness can make you feel lighter, even if the other person never says sorry.
Being Bitter Ruins Lives
Bitterness grows when you hold onto past hurts. Like rust, it spreads into other parts of your life—your mood, relationships, even your health. Forgiving others stops bitterness in its tracks. You don’t have to like what happened but you can decide it won’t control your happiness.
It’s Essential to Move On
If you want a fresh start, you must stop carrying yesterday’s problems into today. Forgiveness is a real way to shut the door on the past and walk forward. Without it, every new day feels like dragging your old troubles behind you.
Sets a Powerful Example
When you forgive, you show others what real strength looks like. Children, friends, and even strangers notice and learn. People watch how you handle tough moments, and your choice to forgive might inspire someone else to do the same.
It’s Good for Your Mental Health
Letting resentment stew inside you can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression. Forgiveness can help you sleep better, think clearly, and feel less overwhelmed. Scientists link forgiveness to lower blood pressure and a stronger mind.
There’s Enough Hate in the World
Every act of forgiveness adds a little more peace to your surroundings. With so much fighting, rage, and blame out there, your choice to forgive becomes a small act of rebellion against a world that often chooses hate.
Forgiveness Reflects Spiritual Wisdom
Many spiritual teachers, including Jesus, put forgiveness at the centre of their message. By forgiving, you honour not just your own peace, but the deepest teachings of love, compassion, and empathy. Forgiveness isn’t about religion for everyone, but it does connect to some of the best advice humans have ever received.
Forgiving Doesn’t Excuse the Hurt
Some fear that forgiving means saying what happened was okay. Forgiveness doesn’t erase the wrong, but it lets you move on. You can protect yourself without staying angry. Forgiving removes the power the hurt has over you.
Today, I decided to forgive you. Not because you apologised. Or because you acknowledged the pain that you caused me. But because my soul deserves peace. Najwa Zebian
You don’t need to keep score, or seek revenge. Time has a way of balancing all accounts, returning to each person exactly what they’ve put into the world. Just focus on staying in the light, and let the Universe handle the bookkeeping. Vex King
Incredible True Stories of Forgiveness
If you think that you could never forgive someone, it may help to read of those who chose to forgive in exceptional circumstances:
Alison Botha was in her 20s, when she was dragged off the road in South Africa, where she was raped and stabbed by two men, who slit her throat and left her to die. Saved by a passing veterinary student, she eventually forgave them to move on, start a family and create a peace foundation. She is now fighting a brain tumour, but amazes others with her humour and tenacity.
Eva Mozes Kor and her sister were two of the children (after the rest of their family were killed) used in Hitler’s infamous medical experiments (her disabled sister died early).
After years of feeling bitter, she was asked to lay a wreath in memory of Jews who died at concentration camps. She agreed, but only if a former SS soldier joined her – who then told her he had nightmares of guilt ever since.
Many people were angry at her, for forgiving the Nazis. But Eva said just before her death that Hitler did what he did, due to hate. And she said ‘I don’t want the world to have another Hitler’.
The Forgiveness Project was set up by an Italian journalist, who interviews those who have chosen to forgive: mothers of men who have murdered their sons, adults forgiving abusive parents, and sons forgiving terrorist fathers.
She recently interviewed two fathers (one from Palestine and one from Israel) whose daughters were both murdered – by an Israeli solider and two Palestinian suicide bombers). Both now work for peace organisations, to prevent the vicious circle of violence continuing.
Did Jesus Teach We Should All Forgive?
He did, and even forgave those who crucified him. And he would teach forgiveness in the form of parables (the lost sheep, prodigal son). We all know what he said on the Cross, as the whole notion of Christianity is that he died, so our sins would be forgiven:
‘Father, forgive them for they know not what they do’.
However, some believe that forgiveness sometimes is not good, when it puts the onus on victims. How do we forgive child killers, animal abusers, Catholic priests who abuse children and get moved around, and then tell us to forgive?
Author Kaya says that in some cases, forgiving yourself for things you have done that you feel guilty about, could mess your head up even more. That’s ‘stuffing feelings’, rather than acknowledging you feel bad, and to ‘try better next time’.
Say you have been a terrorist. She believe that you shouldn’t forgive yourself. Instead, you should ask God for forgiveness, and spend the rest of your life doing good, to make up for the wrongs of the past.
We know from trauma theory that expecting victims to repeatedly revisit the scenes of their abuse means they are being re-traumatised each time that happens. I have not always been able to grant forgiveness. I am also tired of hearing that this makes me or anyone else a bad person.
Books to Help You Forgive (inc. yourself)
Forgive: Why Should I And How Can I? is by pastor Timothy Keller, who grapples with the thorn question of why we should forgive those who hurt us. It’s the heart of the Gospel, as carrying around resentment and judgement has huge cost to us.
The Ignatian Guide to Forgiveness offers a 10-step process by one of the Catholic orders. True forgiveness is complicated due to the pain of betrayal, loss, deception and personal attack, as we cling tightly to emotions and memories.
Rebuilt Faith is a beautifully written book for Catholics who are considering walking away from their faith, because they carry guilt of something in the past, and don’t feel worthy of God’s love). Or been hurt by someone in the Church, so struggle with its teachings.
These five simple steps can be done in 10 minutes a day over 40 days, during morning coffee. Each one includes a quote from a saint, a reflection. questions to ponder, a prayer and a Scripture verse.
